You are my everything; my air, water, food, shelter, clothing, friend, family. You are simply my whole world. I don’t know how to live or even be alive without you.
Says all the overly dramatic people who only thinks of happiness in the form of love. Not even in the fatherly, motherly, brotherly, sisterly, friendly, teacherly, priestly, dogly (because dogs are my only lovable animal) or whatever -ly love there is. I’m talking about the romantic love here. Like opposite sex love. or in the case, same sex for homos.
Yeah. This rant post is about people who are drowning in misery love for their boyfriends and/or girlfriends. How certain people tend to forget all the other people around them because their minds (and hearts) are always occupied by their special someone.
I am not complaining right now because I’m one hell of an ampalaya. I’m saying this because there are many people I know who gets so consumed with all the sweet and mushy love that they forget all the other people and things’ worth for them. It’s not good for them because they get hurt from loving someone so much, and I honestly care (well not for all). What’s in it for me, then? Obviously, I have so much problems myself and I would not want my facebook, twitter, tumblr or phone to be filled with papansin rants and statements about them getting bitter for their exes.
Yes, love does make the world go round. Just that it is not the lone requirement. Priests and nuns are happy yet they do not have their romantic lovers with them. They are happy just being with God, friends and family. They are happy serving and doing good for people around them. They are happy because they do things that they love. Not the other way around. They do not love because they want to find happiness.
I always see statements like, “no one loves me”, “walang nakaka-alala sa akin” or even “buti pa siya may boyfriend/girlfriend/other half/special someone/other cheesy callings.”
Pagkatapos ng mala-fairy tale niyong love story, saka mo lang mari-realize na nothing lasts forever gaya ng kanta ng Maroon 5. Gaya din ng makalumang (o makabago?) kasabihan na nagiging tanga kahit na ang pinakamatalinong tao pagdating sa pag-ibig. We do not use our minds, but instead we use our hearts to love. People fail to think rationally when love is on the line. We tend to follow our hearts even if it means doing something really stupid.
Even if that’s the case, it does not mean we should put all our effort, time and love for our lovers. Family, friends, studies, work, career, etc. are still present in your life. Magpalit-palit ka man ng syota, hindi mag-iiba ang pamilya mo (maliban na lang kung itinakwil ka na dahil sa dakila mong pag-ibig). Kahit na kina-iiritahan ng mga kaibigan mo ang relationship mo ngayon, hindi ibig sabihin noon na hindi ka na nila kaibigan. Makipag-break ka man ng ilang beses, hindi ka tatantanan ng pag-aaral mo lalo na kung college ka na at MALAKI na ang tsansa na umulit-ulit ka kung bagsak ka.
What I’m trying to say is, no one stays in a (boyfriend/girlfriend) relationship for more than 10 years unlike your relationships with your family, friends, education and work. Kung umabot man kayo ng sampung taon na mag-syota, utang na loob dalhin niyo na sa kasalan ‘yan. Anong hinihintay niyo? Menopausal at andropausal?
Don’t waste your energy and time for someone temporary. Hindi sa sinasabi kong forever rin ang friendships 
at hindi sa sinasabi kong wag mag-try sa relationship. Learn how to balance things and your priorities. Never let your family feel that you’ve forgotten about them even if it’s because of work or studies. Don’t let your friends feel taken for granted because you are already in a relationship; same with your lovers when you are with your friends.
Ginusto mo ‘yang pag-ibig na yan, ‘te. Panindigan mo! Hindi yung puro pag-iinarte inaatupag mo pag naghiwalay na kayo. Move on move on din.
Worst case scenario: In your life, you got used to having someone special be there for you. Nasanay ka na sa pakiramdam na may nag-aalaga, nag-aalala at nag-mamahal sa ‘yo in a romantic way kaya lagi mo na ‘tong hinahanap-hanap kung maghiwalay kayo ng present mo. Hindi mo makalimutan yung feeling na naramdaman mo sa mga ex mo kaya naghahanap ka ng papalit para mapunan ‘tong nararamdaman mo na ‘to. Repeatedly, you look for a lover and you think that romantic love would be hte only feeling to make you as happy as before.
First love feels fucking great! Kaya lagi kang naghahanap ng masarap na pag-ibig na maaring pumantay sa kasiyahang iyon.
Hindi sa nangengeelam ako sa love life ng mga tao, actually, gusto ko ngang mangeelam e. BUT I won’t since even I am not in a relationship. Who am I to tell you what and what not to do?
Maybe the reason I am annoyed with all the people complaining after break-ups is I don’t even know how it feels like. Also, that could be the reason why I do not want to be in such relationships. Pain and tears are inevitable and I hate it. For sure, I don’t want to see my friends feel this pain and sadness after their break-up. I try to be the neutral person to be there for friends having troubles with their relationships but I can’t help see who’s right and wrong and be biased.
So, lumalayo na yung utak ko sa dapat kong sinasabi lang ngayon. Main point ko lang, hindi pag-ibig ang sagot sa lahat. Hindi iikot ang buhay mo sa isang tao lamang tapos pag iniwan ka niya akala mo end of the world mo na para mag-suicide ka (sana naman hindi niyo makuha yung idea dahil sinabi ko) o mag-inarte sa social media.
Learn to let go and move on. Wait and don’t force love to come in your way. Huwag mong tabunan ang broken heart ng bagong pag-ibig na maaari ring maging isa na namang sawing pagmamahal.
Be happy with the other things in life. Hindi lang searching for the right one ang reason kung bakit tayo binigyan ni God ng buhay. May we all find our purpose here in the world as we also go about to have our other half to be with in our lives.
